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Ashley Borders Is A Standout: Southern Charm Savannah

So I watched Southern Charm Savannah episode 2 last night, and, to me at least, it is apparent that the series standout (maybe this will change) is Ashley Borders (Ashley’s Instagram).

It is easy to see why some women (aka the other boring bitches on the show) might not warm up to Ashley, because not only does Ashley have a super hot body, but she is willing to strip down to super revealing lingerie or bathing suits on a whim, whether this whim occurs on a golf course around 2 of her male friends or on a dock on a bayou (don’t even know if I’m using this word correctly, it might be a river Ashley jumped into, but I wanted to use bayou and hear the YOU part of the word echo in my head fifteen times over).

It does seem to me, but this is coming from a really uptight prudish person, that Ashley might use her sexiness to attract the attention of men in ways that seem somewhat desperate, especially when Ashley’s (estranged?) husband, Dennis, is standing a few feet away from her (as this is what happened in the first episode…Dennis, seems like a rather submissive man who wants his wife all to himself, but doesn’t have the nerve to challenge his partner because he wants her so bad). This is the downside to Ashley or what boring people might use to hate her. Ashley admits that they married because she was pregnant with her son Isaac, and that even though it is typical in Southern culture that everything is ok, Ashley is not happy.

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(Ashley’s husband, Dennis, and Ashley as a brunette)

So while I cringed when Ashley strips down, because the others around her seem uncomfortable with it also, I love how OPEN she is.

To me, as an avid reality TV show consumer, it is incredibly important that one is OPEN and shares embarrassing, shocking, and/or painful information with the audience, because that is what makes an audience get attached to reality TV people/characters. I think the audience can smell bullshit, and people like Ramona on Real Housewives of New York City last the test of time because EVERYONE is a bit crazy, but many people try to conceal that rather than being upfront about it.

Ashley admits on episode 2 that she hasn’t had a sexual relationship with her husband since her son, Izzy (who I think is adorable), was born. According to Ashley’s Instagram account, Izzy just turned 13 3 days ago. On SC Savannah, Ashley says that Dennis and she divorced when he was a toddler and then got married again 8 years later. That’s a long time to go without boning your spouse!

 

Ashley’s relationship is something that I’d like to learn more about. Why is her husband hanging around and being identified as Ashley’s husband in the first episode if they’re not in a typical sexual husband-wife relationship? What I respect about Ashley is that she is honest and shares that her relationship is not conventional.

Does Ashley or her husband have sex outside of the relationship? This is something I’ll keep tuning in to find out. It seems like Ashley’s desire to strip down might reflect that she is very comfortable with her body and this might extend to being very sexual, but maybe she also strips down because she is sex deprived and needs to feel hot in some way if her husband isn’t doing it for her or making Ashley feel desirable.

Anyways, the other people on this show seem pretty boring and generic so far, so if it weren’t for Ashley I don’t know if I’d keep watching. Southern Charm OG is a tough act to follow, so we’ll see how well Savannah does.

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It’s That Bad In U.S., Eh?: “Guatemalan Man Calls 911 and Asks to be Deported”-People.com

Cesar Sanchez is making the best of an apparently really shitty situation. As they say, when life hands you lemons, make lemonade! I hope if Cesar needs some lemonade (aka healthcare assistance) that he gets it in his home country of Guatemala rather than being held with no medical care in an American prison as that is what is supposedly currently happening).

Check out this link (People.com story) about a Guatamelan man who called 911 to turn himself in as an undocumented immigrant, because he is apparently sick. Makes sense then that he’d want to go home to get some medical care, rather than NO medical care.

This story is funny in a disturbing way. Like, the U.S. sucks so bad that people who once thought it was the lands of dreams are calling the enemy–the cops–to help transport them back to their different vs less developed debate country of Guatemala.

Update: I typed in Cesar Sanchez on google and found this Breitbart news article. I didn’t see things in the same way, but this article contains some more hopefully accurate information.

Planned Parenthood: Kardashians Redeem Themselves

I’m happy the Kardashians have gone and filmed a segment at Planned Parenthood because it puts a very well-known face on women’s reproductive health rights, which are important to focus on at this point in time in the United States and Canada also.

Planned Parenthood is the first place I went to for contraception. I got birth control pills at my Mom’s encouragement during high school. I didn’t even end up having sex with the person I was dating while I was taking the pills, but I appreciated the judgment-free help I received at Planned Parenthood in Hamilton, Ontario.

Anyways, I’ve also had an abortion. I got pregnant because I was delusional about how dangerous my blackout-drinking habits were, and a guy I didn’t even remember meeting had sex with me and I ended up pregnant. I didn’t even consider for a second having the child. The guy who had impregnated me scared me, and I knew I wanted an abortion. I received exceptional medical care and was able to pay at a private clinic in my city of Vancouver for an abortion that cost around $600.

Clearly, access to money was helpful here, so my class had a definite impact on how quickly I could schedule an abortion. I have never, ever regretted having an abortion at 23 (I’m 33 now). I wish I didn’t drink out of control like a maniac, so I didn’t end up with an unwanted pregnancy.

I found the actual procedure much less traumatic than those anti-abortion picketers who hold signs up about how babies are being aborted with full arms and legs. I had an abortion at 5 weeks and the doctor doing the procedure showed me the peatree dish with what looked like a strong period, nothing more, and I breathed a sigh of relief. I don’t want to get pregnant again and have an abortion, but if you do end up with a pregnancy and don’t want to give birth being proactive can make the recuperation period easier, based on how I experienced things. Anyways, I’m so thankful I had this option, and other women deserve this option also. That is why the conservative side is scary and eerily similar to The Handmaid’s Tale reproductive metaphor.

Planned Parenthood exists throughout the United States, and at sites they offer different things such as abortions, abortion referrals, contraception, and of course, education about sexual health. It is an essential service in my opinion. It is dangerous to children’s well-being to be born to mother’s who do not want to carry the pregnancy to term. Unwanted children cannot be cared for in the same way that wanted children can. For this reason, and many others, abortion is essential in our society.

I respect the Kardashians for going to a Planned Parenthood (check out their site here: Planned Parenthood site) in California to film a segment and to stand in line with Planned Parenthood to continue to raise awareness of how much funding Planned Parenthood requires to help as many people as possible, but also laws that make abortion services available to people and affordable. Safety matters to.

Thank-you unbelievably visible Kardashians for doing your part to draw more people’s attention to Planned Parenthood. Anyone who thinks the Kardashians are all bad is pessimistic and ignoring FACTS. Especially since the Kardashians are so famous, because if I were them I’d be extra scared a vengeful anti-abortion person might shoot me to make a point.

Love you Kardashians forever!

Dolly Parton Takes Some Shame Away from Suicidal Thoughts

I read this article (click here) on People.com last night, and reading quotes a new book called Dolly on Dolly, Interviews and Encounters with Dolly Parton that has compiled lots of Dolly Parton interviews together. According to this book there was a time when she thought about killing herself with her pistol, because she was so unhappy made me feel undeniably better and less shameful about the fact that I’ve had two overnight stays in the hospital when I’ve been suicidal. Dolly apparently said that her dog saved her by running in and jolting her out of her depression and that he is her “spiritual messenger”.

I keep feeling bad because I didn’t actually kill myself and just talked about how I was thinking about killing myself.

That is the sick part about stigma in our society. It should be a positive thing that I received support and didn’t kill myself, but I still think there is a lot of judgment around people admitting they’re in a lot of pain and are thinking about hurting themselves.

I am thankful at my lowest points I was able to afford high quality medical support and I think my mental health problems improved.

Dolly Parton goes out on a limb by being so honest and frank about her own struggles with suicide, because we’re not supposed to admit openly that sometimes life sucks so much it can appear as if death would be a better solution. I hope it’s not. I hope that any individual who is having suicidal thoughts share them with someone who can help you, either at a hospital or with a friend/trusted person.

Dolly Parton proves that you can be incredibly successful and viewed as having it all in life and still be suicidal. Depression and suicide do not discriminate, but I still think that shame is the dominating force that shapes how we treat depression and suicide and that makes it less safe for people who are struggling with these issues.

Anyways, I don’t listen to Dolly Parton’s music on my iTunes but I love her persona and acting (Steel Magnolias, 9 to 5) and this candid revelation about being suicidal made me love her more. Dolly rules! Maybe I’ll make it to Dollywood one day.

On a side note, I saw this article up on People.com last night and it was already far down the page and not a big story even though I think it should have been. Today I went back to People.com to find it and I couldn’t find it was pushed so far down in the news chain of events. I had to type in Dolly Parton suicide People.com on Google to find the article. I may be wrong but I think how quickly this article disappeared from People.com is another example of stigma towards getting help and being open about mental health struggles.

Why Is Brad Pitt More Comfortable With The R-word Than The A-word?

Brad Pitt has just done an interview with GQ, and in it he reveals the most in a long time about himself, his divorce, and his kids (but nothing juicy about Angelina specifically).

Anyways, he basically acknowledges his own role in the divorce without critiquing Jolie, that must take some control because she can’t be perfect, and points to his own partying and alcohol consumption as big problems.

B.P. then goes on to say that he hasn’t drank for 6 months. Prior to that he describes himself as “retarded” (I thought all politically correct folks knew this word is a no-no nowadays…especially when it is being used in the way that refers to moving backwards or regressing. Many people with mental handicaps are progressing and represent inspiring examples of human beings, and since the word “retarded” ended-up often being used with the intention of making someone with a mental disability or challenge viewed as less than others, which is wrong and inaccurate) in an emotional sense. Pitt claims that he wasn’t good at showing his emotions, and infers that he repeated his own father’s example of, “Father knows best” and a “war mentality”.

While I don’t know Brad Pitt at all, it was surprising that he referred to himself using the r-word (which I must admit I still use in my vehicle during road-rage so I contribute to the negative prejudice that the word promotes towards people with mental disability’s as well) he wouldn’t flat-out label himself an “alcoholic”, which it sounds like he is, since he is now abstaining from alcohol entirely. When asked why he choose to quit drinking Pitt simply said, “Don’t want to live that way anymore”.

I enjoyed this interview, and it re-established my Pitt Fandom, I think he is going to put out something incredible soon, but it did make me think of how harshly our society judges alcoholics when someone prefers to use the r-word (which I thought he would know enough to steer clear from) to describe themselves over the a-word. R-word is offensive because it has a history of being used to put people down.

I’m an alcoholic and I don’t mind the label, because my life is much less scary with my own self-labelling of alcoholic than it was when I refused to call myself an alcoholic. So maybe alcoholic has a huge negative association for some people, but in terms of my own self-perception it doesn’t, and maybe that is why I’m wondering what makes Brad Pitt so scared to call himself an alcoholic (maybe court will judge him more harshly with his kids if he does, who knows?).

Maybe it means nothing at all.

Oh My God! This is the Best Outfit Ever: JLo Steals Met Gala

J.Lo is now officially my human Barbie doll.

This is J.Lo and A.Rod arriving at the 2017 Met Gala in New York City on May 1st, 2017. If I could have found a special edition Barbie doll that looked like this when I was 12 (yes, while some girls had boyfriends, I had a thing for keeping collector’s Barbie’s in their original boxes), I would have totally spent $60 on it.

Love you J.Lo! If you’re looking for a nod to J.Lo’s classic “If You Had My Love” as it is perfectly sampled on the sexy song Teenage Dream by Drake.

Things that are nice on the eyes are okay to enjoy sometimes, right?

A. Rod looks kind of goofy and like he doesn’t really know how to deal with being there, but on a positive note he really looks proud to be there with J.Lo and since I do love J.Lo, I think any man on her arm should be proud to be with such a hard-working entertainer.

Finally, A Story That Made Me Happy: Southern Charm’s Craig Conover Finally Passed Bar Exam

I saw this People magazine story yesterday and I realized that discipline and perseverance in the face of adversity persist after all when I found out Southern Charm’s (one of my top, if not THE top reality show, show I’m watching–in my opinion) Craig Conover finally passed the bar exam.

He was publicly shamed at the end of the last season (the 3rd) when he was pushed to reveal on the reunion that he can’t write the bar exam because he failed to finish law school. His final term paper was never turned in.

The rest of the cast appeared shocked to learn that Craig had been lying to them for 3 seasons. I’m not sure how many actual years that is, but probably at least 2, since season 1.

Anyways, though Craig is a bit of a tool sometimes, he does have a certain sweetness and he seems very focused on doing the right thing, even if it’s undeniable that he often doesn’t DO THE RIGHT THING (haven’t seen that movie in a while-may be revisiting it soon).

Conover’s best moment this season (4) so far, again in my opinion since I’m the one writing this and there’s no statistical way found out yet to determine whether or not this is more than an opinion and truly accurate) is when after a polo match, his co-star and apparent friend Thomas Ravenel is sitting with some other cast members as his two children, Kenzie and Saint, (who he fathered as a 50 plus lifelong bachelor with the now 24 year-old Kathryn Dennis and who he has full custody of) are pushed on a stroller by their nanny behind them. 3 year-old Kenzie is yelling out, “Daddy! Daddy!” but he ignores her and continues talking to the people around them.

Craig takes issue with this (it felt super weird to me too…just say hi to your daughter since she is clearly happy to see you) and told Thomas in Craig’s very nasally voice to go say hi to his daughter. Thomas kind of tells Craig to fuck off and Craig walks away pissed. This moment is where Craig’s midwestern sensibility really shines through.

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Congrats to Craig and his girlfriend Naomie Olindo who seemed about ready to dump him if he didn’t get it together and finally do something with his life (not to say at all that this is something I’ve accomplished myself, but still aiming for it)!

Why haven’t I seen this pic until today? Damon Albarn (GORILLAZ) and Liam Gallagher

 

Liam Gallagher (l) and Damon Albarn (r) back in the day. I just assume this picture is taken in England, even though I have no legitimate reason to know that. Just realizing I’ve had a crush on Damon Albarn for at least 20 years now. He still sounds incredible.

Two hot guys very close together. Hmm. Can I join?

On a side note, I have started listening to GORILLAZ new album HUMANZ and I’ve quickly (as of yesterday) found at least 2 songs on the album I will regularly listen to for at least a few weeks. The songs are Submission by Danny Brown and Kelela and Andromeda featuring D.R.A.M.

It’s worth a listen if you like to dance, like sexy men’s (and women’s) voices, and you want to feel both positive and moody.

“Take it in your heart now, lover…”

For all you youngin’s out there, the day I was introduced to Albarn when I was in grade 7 via Song 2 with his old band Blur, but now I’m realizing I like Girls and Boys better. So here it is:

Placement of Heidi’s Other Hand is Everything in this Pic

It’s funny this news story has come out today because two nights ago I had a sudden craving for Speidi and The Hills was the show I had playing in my bedroom prior to falling asleep (much to my boyfried’s chagrin…no matter how hard I try I can’t get him to obsess over reality TV or even enjoy it remotely as much as I do), so it’s I’m excited to see they’re having a baby!

If I recall, even back in the day when The Hills was still airing Spencer never wanted to have a baby and Heidi was trying to talk him into it.

Well, maybe Heidi will lead us to believe things have changed (and somehow use this public front as her opinion to lock-down a new reality show over how Spencer reacts to having to share his MA-MA/wife), but if you look at Heidi’s right hand gripped like a tentacle tightly around the hand Spencer is using to create a heart over her belly there is evidence of a bit of tension (in my opinion only, of course).

Haaahahhaah! I can imagine Spencer’s old friends who see this at the grocery store (I typed supermarket first, yet I never say that out loud and I’m not an American…why?) cracking up at the thought of Spencer morphing into a totally loving, kind person as a dad.

So, it kinds of looks like Heidi’s hand is screaming,”You will love this child Spencer!” as Spencer thinks of ways to simultaneously escape the relationship and further obsess over Heidi, because she’s the only one fucked-up enough to deal with his many issues.

But I also have many issues, including a bed temper and a tendency towards paranoia like Spencer, so not only do I have compassion for Spencer’s insanity, I also want to see another Speidi reality show please! Bravo scoop them up from MTV already…or maybe there needs to be a Princes of Malibu Season 2? Brody could use the work.