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Ashley Borders Is A Standout: Southern Charm Savannah

So I watched Southern Charm Savannah episode 2 last night, and, to me at least, it is apparent that the series standout (maybe this will change) is Ashley Borders (Ashley’s Instagram).

It is easy to see why some women (aka the other boring bitches on the show) might not warm up to Ashley, because not only does Ashley have a super hot body, but she is willing to strip down to super revealing lingerie or bathing suits on a whim, whether this whim occurs on a golf course around 2 of her male friends or on a dock on a bayou (don’t even know if I’m using this word correctly, it might be a river Ashley jumped into, but I wanted to use bayou and hear the YOU part of the word echo in my head fifteen times over).

It does seem to me, but this is coming from a really uptight prudish person, that Ashley might use her sexiness to attract the attention of men in ways that seem somewhat desperate, especially when Ashley’s (estranged?) husband, Dennis, is standing a few feet away from her (as this is what happened in the first episode…Dennis, seems like a rather submissive man who wants his wife all to himself, but doesn’t have the nerve to challenge his partner because he wants her so bad). This is the downside to Ashley or what boring people might use to hate her. Ashley admits that they married because she was pregnant with her son Isaac, and that even though it is typical in Southern culture that everything is ok, Ashley is not happy.

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(Ashley’s husband, Dennis, and Ashley as a brunette)

So while I cringed when Ashley strips down, because the others around her seem uncomfortable with it also, I love how OPEN she is.

To me, as an avid reality TV show consumer, it is incredibly important that one is OPEN and shares embarrassing, shocking, and/or painful information with the audience, because that is what makes an audience get attached to reality TV people/characters. I think the audience can smell bullshit, and people like Ramona on Real Housewives of New York City last the test of time because EVERYONE is a bit crazy, but many people try to conceal that rather than being upfront about it.

Ashley admits on episode 2 that she hasn’t had a sexual relationship with her husband since her son, Izzy (who I think is adorable), was born. According to Ashley’s Instagram account, Izzy just turned 13 3 days ago. On SC Savannah, Ashley says that Dennis and she divorced when he was a toddler and then got married again 8 years later. That’s a long time to go without boning your spouse!

 

Ashley’s relationship is something that I’d like to learn more about. Why is her husband hanging around and being identified as Ashley’s husband in the first episode if they’re not in a typical sexual husband-wife relationship? What I respect about Ashley is that she is honest and shares that her relationship is not conventional.

Does Ashley or her husband have sex outside of the relationship? This is something I’ll keep tuning in to find out. It seems like Ashley’s desire to strip down might reflect that she is very comfortable with her body and this might extend to being very sexual, but maybe she also strips down because she is sex deprived and needs to feel hot in some way if her husband isn’t doing it for her or making Ashley feel desirable.

Anyways, the other people on this show seem pretty boring and generic so far, so if it weren’t for Ashley I don’t know if I’d keep watching. Southern Charm OG is a tough act to follow, so we’ll see how well Savannah does.

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Travis Scott Is Hot: Go Kylie!

I think this guy is pretty cute. Hopefully Travis is innocent, or the reason he apparently incited a riot was justified. If he got people all riled up just for the sake of hurting other people than that is not cool.

Here’s a story about his arrest: TMZ.com.

I’m going to keep following this story to see if I can find any other things out about the case. I saw pics of Kylie Jenner and Travis Scott at a basketball game together. Have fun you two youngsters!

I hope Scott puts out another album soon. His music is really good.

It’s That Bad In U.S., Eh?: “Guatemalan Man Calls 911 and Asks to be Deported”-People.com

Cesar Sanchez is making the best of an apparently really shitty situation. As they say, when life hands you lemons, make lemonade! I hope if Cesar needs some lemonade (aka healthcare assistance) that he gets it in his home country of Guatemala rather than being held with no medical care in an American prison as that is what is supposedly currently happening).

Check out this link (People.com story) about a Guatamelan man who called 911 to turn himself in as an undocumented immigrant, because he is apparently sick. Makes sense then that he’d want to go home to get some medical care, rather than NO medical care.

This story is funny in a disturbing way. Like, the U.S. sucks so bad that people who once thought it was the lands of dreams are calling the enemy–the cops–to help transport them back to their different vs less developed debate country of Guatemala.

Update: I typed in Cesar Sanchez on google and found this Breitbart news article. I didn’t see things in the same way, but this article contains some more hopefully accurate information.

Planned Parenthood: Kardashians Redeem Themselves

I’m happy the Kardashians have gone and filmed a segment at Planned Parenthood because it puts a very well-known face on women’s reproductive health rights, which are important to focus on at this point in time in the United States and Canada also.

Planned Parenthood is the first place I went to for contraception. I got birth control pills at my Mom’s encouragement during high school. I didn’t even end up having sex with the person I was dating while I was taking the pills, but I appreciated the judgment-free help I received at Planned Parenthood in Hamilton, Ontario.

Anyways, I’ve also had an abortion. I got pregnant because I was delusional about how dangerous my blackout-drinking habits were, and a guy I didn’t even remember meeting had sex with me and I ended up pregnant. I didn’t even consider for a second having the child. The guy who had impregnated me scared me, and I knew I wanted an abortion. I received exceptional medical care and was able to pay at a private clinic in my city of Vancouver for an abortion that cost around $600.

Clearly, access to money was helpful here, so my class had a definite impact on how quickly I could schedule an abortion. I have never, ever regretted having an abortion at 23 (I’m 33 now). I wish I didn’t drink out of control like a maniac, so I didn’t end up with an unwanted pregnancy.

I found the actual procedure much less traumatic than those anti-abortion picketers who hold signs up about how babies are being aborted with full arms and legs. I had an abortion at 5 weeks and the doctor doing the procedure showed me the peatree dish with what looked like a strong period, nothing more, and I breathed a sigh of relief. I don’t want to get pregnant again and have an abortion, but if you do end up with a pregnancy and don’t want to give birth being proactive can make the recuperation period easier, based on how I experienced things. Anyways, I’m so thankful I had this option, and other women deserve this option also. That is why the conservative side is scary and eerily similar to The Handmaid’s Tale reproductive metaphor.

Planned Parenthood exists throughout the United States, and at sites they offer different things such as abortions, abortion referrals, contraception, and of course, education about sexual health. It is an essential service in my opinion. It is dangerous to children’s well-being to be born to mother’s who do not want to carry the pregnancy to term. Unwanted children cannot be cared for in the same way that wanted children can. For this reason, and many others, abortion is essential in our society.

I respect the Kardashians for going to a Planned Parenthood (check out their site here: Planned Parenthood site) in California to film a segment and to stand in line with Planned Parenthood to continue to raise awareness of how much funding Planned Parenthood requires to help as many people as possible, but also laws that make abortion services available to people and affordable. Safety matters to.

Thank-you unbelievably visible Kardashians for doing your part to draw more people’s attention to Planned Parenthood. Anyone who thinks the Kardashians are all bad is pessimistic and ignoring FACTS. Especially since the Kardashians are so famous, because if I were them I’d be extra scared a vengeful anti-abortion person might shoot me to make a point.

Love you Kardashians forever!

Dolly Parton Takes Some Shame Away from Suicidal Thoughts

I read this article (click here) on People.com last night, and reading quotes a new book called Dolly on Dolly, Interviews and Encounters with Dolly Parton that has compiled lots of Dolly Parton interviews together. According to this book there was a time when she thought about killing herself with her pistol, because she was so unhappy made me feel undeniably better and less shameful about the fact that I’ve had two overnight stays in the hospital when I’ve been suicidal. Dolly apparently said that her dog saved her by running in and jolting her out of her depression and that he is her “spiritual messenger”.

I keep feeling bad because I didn’t actually kill myself and just talked about how I was thinking about killing myself.

That is the sick part about stigma in our society. It should be a positive thing that I received support and didn’t kill myself, but I still think there is a lot of judgment around people admitting they’re in a lot of pain and are thinking about hurting themselves.

I am thankful at my lowest points I was able to afford high quality medical support and I think my mental health problems improved.

Dolly Parton goes out on a limb by being so honest and frank about her own struggles with suicide, because we’re not supposed to admit openly that sometimes life sucks so much it can appear as if death would be a better solution. I hope it’s not. I hope that any individual who is having suicidal thoughts share them with someone who can help you, either at a hospital or with a friend/trusted person.

Dolly Parton proves that you can be incredibly successful and viewed as having it all in life and still be suicidal. Depression and suicide do not discriminate, but I still think that shame is the dominating force that shapes how we treat depression and suicide and that makes it less safe for people who are struggling with these issues.

Anyways, I don’t listen to Dolly Parton’s music on my iTunes but I love her persona and acting (Steel Magnolias, 9 to 5) and this candid revelation about being suicidal made me love her more. Dolly rules! Maybe I’ll make it to Dollywood one day.

On a side note, I saw this article up on People.com last night and it was already far down the page and not a big story even though I think it should have been. Today I went back to People.com to find it and I couldn’t find it was pushed so far down in the news chain of events. I had to type in Dolly Parton suicide People.com on Google to find the article. I may be wrong but I think how quickly this article disappeared from People.com is another example of stigma towards getting help and being open about mental health struggles.