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Safety for Transgender People Further Threatened Due To Trump

Trump has decided that transgender people will no longer be accepted into the US military (CNN discusses this) and those transgender people who are already serving (thanks to the progress the Obama administration made) will somehow be phased out, as if they’re a trend not humans.

The public reasoning behind Trump’s decision is supposedly to lower health care expenditures and prevent disruption, yet an analysis I read suggests that any money spend on transgender people’s specific health care costs pale in comparison to the overall money spent by the defense fund each year on soldiers’ health care (something like $49 billion compared to 8 million, but I’m not double checking sources here so please do that before believing my memory of a statistic). Shockingly, or not, it seems as if Trump is misrepresenting the reasoning behind his decision. Not like this is out of the ordinary though, as I have a feeling this is going to be his M.O. till the day he dies.

I guess Trump doesn’t give a fuck about whether or not his decision increases the divisiveness between soldiers and civilians. I think it will. And I think it is a false assumption that having trans and cis people working together in the army is disruptive, when in reality the leader of the country saying trans people aren’t accepted in the army is what is likely going to create more disruption than continuing to progress and allow people to identify as they choose to.

Now I think soldiers who are cis who’d be open to socializing and supporting trans military personnel may no longer feel safe doing so in case the cis people also have their jobs get threatened because of some stupid idea that “birds of a feather flock together” and the military brass might start to become paranoid and think a cis person can’t be friends with a trans person. Maybe all of my fears about what Trump’s decision is going to cause within the US military and the US as a whole are exaggerated and totally off base. Maybe they’re not.

Hopefully, there will be enough push back to have this decision reversed. Maybe Trump will be exposed to more ideas that might trigger his brain to stop for a second and consider the possibility that trans people don’t pose any threat to other people. How one wants their body to look, their name to be, their voice to sound, and the decision to claim the identity that one feels is right does not mean there is something devious, sinister, or bad about a person. Lying, stealing, cheating, abusing, murdering, and doing other forms of harm to others and oneself are the types of things (dramatic cough ahem ahem) that should be banned from the army and that should be feared, not being trans. Yes, I am passive-aggressively taking jabs at Trump, because at a bare minimum based on his own words I know that he is okay with using his power to sexually assault women. So yes, I hate Trump plain and simple for this reason alone, because I think he does the things he should fear, not trans people (which is not to say all trans people are perfect, every human is a combination of both good and bad and it’s an ongoing struggle for everybody to be a better person..I am just focusing on Trump’s bad parts because they affect too many people to go uncriticized).

It is so sad and VERY SCARY (I feel scared and I’m not even the one being targeted specifically, but aren’t we all being targeted when society tries to restrict things about your identity that shouldn’t be other people’s business or choice?) that Trump has decided to target trans people not just in the army but everywhere. I am thinking of people who are trans or identify under the LGBTQ umbrella and who live in a small town, who don’t have the money to move to a big, more evolved city space (not that all city spaces are evolved, but some pockets tend to be–again most often for those with $$$), who don’t have the confidence or positive reinforcement yet (for some people sadly this day never comes) to see that being treated poorly for one’s gender identity or sexuality is unacceptable, and who get targeted with threats of violence, experience violence. There are trans people being murdered in the US each year (for example this former soldier was just sentence in the US last week for murdering a transgender woman after the soldier had a sexual encounter with her) for stepping outside of the lines of these rigid, life-threatening gender binaries that people like Trump appear to cling to at any and all costs.

I don’t know how this is going to end. I am so lucky in that my gender identity conforms to gender ideals and I’ve never been targeted in the way trans people continue to be. Just because I’m not targeted doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter to me though. It is not okay for people to be scared to be themselves (unless your true self is, say, a child molester or murderer). Being trans doesn’t hurt other people. Hating trans people does hurt and kill people. Can Trump learn to love and use his power to unite? I don’t know, but let’s not stop trying to get this man and others like him to see the light and realize trans people being who they want to be does not take away from their lives at all. I identify as a cis-gender person and therefore maybe I shouldn’t speak about trans people at all. I hope I didn’t speak for trans people, but in support of those who identify as trans.

#TRANSRIGHTSAREHUMANRIGHTS

This May Be Pathetic, But A SPEIDI Pregnancy Pic Has Brightened My Day!

So since I’m Canadian and we had Canada Day on Saturday, July 1st and the subsequent day off for Monday-Friday peeps Monday, then July 4th in the US on Tuesday, I’m feeling a little down and depressed about how FUCKED UP this world is.

I also watched an HBO documentary, Requiem for the Dead: American Spring 2014, that was fascinating, because it told individual, specific stories rather than simply focusing on overarching statistics (which is a storytelling style I find boring and lacking impact) related to gun violence. Seeing specific stories told over and over again throughout the film against the occasional backdrop of a running tally of how many thousands of people died due to gun violence in the US during the months of March to June 2014 is sickening and I think it hints at how frightening America is. Here’s a link (click here to go to IMDB page for doc) to the IMDB description of the documentary that I strongly recommend. It will take something out of you though (or at least it did that to me), so be ready for it, since it’s not a casual night of after-work viewing. Not relaxing I shall say. I was intrigued, but left with a greater sense of hopelessness.

I needed a pick-me-up this morning. So looking at these very persistent reality TV people, who I’ve been watching since Princes of Malibu (Spencer…still can’t find this show to download and I really wish I could) and The Hills (or maybe even Heidi popped up on Laguna Beach, I feel bad for not knowing, though I shouldn’t) makes me have hope that I can’t always predict the future. I never thought Heidi and Spencer would make it in the long run (at least 10 years now) and not long enough to create a child together.

They’re a bit wacky, but aren’t we all. I guarantee they have many beliefs I find offensive, but yet beneath at all, from watching these people for so long, I can’t help but wish for their happiness and a bright future free from an obsession with very large crystals.

OMG JTT is Still Super Hot!

So you 90s kids must have watched Home Improvement starring Tim Allen. I know I did. Ruh-ruh-ruh! The growling-bark that was “Tim the Tool Man Taylor” trademark joke on the show.

Jonathan Taylor Thomas played the character of Randy. And even though I was only around 10 when I started watching the show, I was definitely randy for JTT.

Those beautiful blue eyes, tan skin, and sweet smile! Who could resist? Certainly not I.

Anyways, I haven’t seen anything about JTT for a long time and then BHAM out of nowhere, I’m on popsugar.com and I stumble upon the above glorious pic of Jonathan.

He’s taking a break from the spotlight since he says he was working since 8 years old. Yes, please take a break then, but don’t stop being hot.

Taylor Swift and New Boyfriend Joe Alwyn: PICS TOGETHER!

DAILY MAIL LINK for more pics of T-Swift and her new boyfriend. All are poor quality though, but they’re something for you Tay-starved folks out there (and I know there’s lots of you). I’m a Tay fan too, but some of the stuff she does irritates the crap out of me.

Taylor Swift has finally decided she wants to be seen with her new boyfriend. They’re there, solid and ready to be out in full view.

And now…what?

This relationship already feels flat to me, because Joe Alwyn looks too sweet, too cute, and too innocent for Taylor Swift.

I have a feeling she’s going to need a little more excitement than what she’s getting with him, but there’s something there for the time being.

Taylor may simply be waiting on another.

 

SOUTHERN CHARM SAVANNAH: Issac Steals the Spotlight and ASHLEY’S MARRIAGE WHOA

On this episode of Southern Charm Savannah, Ashley tells her shockingly quiet husband Dennis, “I mentioned to her (the psychic) about us. She felt perhaps you and I weren’t soulmates. I don’t know if that’s real not real. Maybe I’m standing in your way of finding someone.”

It’s obvious Ashley is the one bored in this relationship who wants someone new. I’m not sure why she is deflecting and putting it on her husband Dennis, who seems into being the bitch in this weird relationship. It’s painful to watch Dennis. I hope Dennis gets his groove back eventually.

“I’m glad she made you feel better” is what Ashley’s husband Dennis says to her when she tells him what the psychic, was in their house to cleanse bad energy from the room that Ashley and Dennis’ hilarious son Isaac was in when his bed caught on fire.

Ashley admits to the camera that, “The lack of romance is really hard for me and it’s lonely”. I bet it would be if she’s celibate and not experiencing enough intimacy.

Dennis also says, “I’m also not going to take relationship advice from the psychic.”

Ashley later says to the camera, “I don’t think Dennis hears me and that breaks my heart.” Yeah, like it sucks for Dennis, but why stay married to someone who doesn’t want you, Dennis? Grow some balls. I know it’s not that easy though.

DUBAI! Ashley then says to the camera, “I want to talk and Dennis doesn’t talk. Dennis got remarried so we could all go to Dubai together. You can’t live in a household together without being married. We didn’t want to split up our family again.” That explains a lot more. I really, really appreciate Ashley’s honesty.

Finally, Ashley says, “It’s hard because I wish it were okay.” At least Ashley doesn’t pretend it is ok. But for the sake of Isaac, their adorable son, who I think is very aware of the unhappy situation his parents are in, and that is why he says the food is poison and was being silly but also bratty when in front of the cameras.

Issac made me laugh out loud! He’s cute, and I like how he challenges his parents by showing them he’s not going to take part in any sort of silly charade. A child shouldn’t see his father feel so low in a relationship. Dennis’ confidence seems non-existent, which is sad. Dennis, you’re an attractive guy.

HOT COUPLE ALERT: Joaquin Phoenix and Rooney Mara More Than a Rumour

I’ve been reading things here and there online, as you may also have been doing, for the last couple of months which suggest that Rooney Mara and Joaquin Phoenix were fucking and potentially super coupled-up on the down-low.

I guess they were because they finally stepped out as a couple at Cannes.

I think they’re both pretty hot! Crazy seeming too which always adds a flavour of excitement to the mix as in, “What’s going to happen with these two?”.

Rooney Mara Joaquin Phoenix same car Cannes

Rooney does appear pretty cold, but she won me over in her roles in Her, Carol, and especially Side Effects. Why didn’t people talk about Side Effects more when it came out? I like how Rooney perfectly embodied a female who is willing to manipulate the qualities about females that have typically been used to oppress women, such as the idea that we’re especially weak and vulnerable, and use it to her own advantage for evil means. I don’t want to give more away, because it will ruin the plot but check out Side Effects if you haven’t seen it. Channing Tatum, Catherine Zeta Jones, and Jude Law round out the cast. Side Effects is also film that takes a glaring look at the pharmaceutical industry. It examines how some mental health professionals take advantage of their power and operate as business people looking to profit from pharmaceutical companies rather than there to help their clients first and think about financial gain second.

Joaquin does do a good job of staying famous and still getting decent enough movies without ever letting the audience know too much about him. I’ve still never seen that documentary called I’m Still Here. I just tried again to find it on Pirate Bay today and there’s no downloads for it…too bad…I do really want to see it, even if it sucks just because of all the hype.

Phoenix made the doc with Casey Affleck (he has 2 kids, Indiana 12 and Atticus (oh wow, what a name) 8, with Phoenix’s sister Summer and they are now divorced), which I feel like is kind of an infamous film now since Affleck was accused of sexual harassment from other women who worked on the set of the documentary. According to IMDB the plot line of the documentary “Documenting Joaquin Phoenix’s transition from the acting world to a career as an aspiring rapper”. Hmm.

Joaquin Rooney cannes audience look

I first developed a big crush on Phoenix when I was a kid and I watched him as a 12 or 13 year-old in the film Parenthood. The film also has a young Keanu Reeves and Martha Plimpton. Anyways, Phoenix was really good and cute in the movie starring Steve Martin. I love him in The Master also, which co-starred Phillip Seymour Hoffman and Amy Adams. It’s supposed to be about L. Ron Hubbard (creator of Scientology if ya didn’t know). Of course, Walk the Line. They’re both actors that don’t seem to be desperately seeking constant attention from the public. That doesn’t mean their egos aren’t huge. I’m just saying because they don’t put it all out there, I am more curious about them, and what their personal lives are like.

Hope they’re having fun and I’m happy to look at pictures of the coupling Marix (it’s probably insulting to give them a couple name, but whatever) until they’re no more, unless of course they last forever.

BOBCAT KITTENS: Rescued From a Fire!

These little angels (BOBCAT KITTENS) were found underneath the steps of a house on fire in Calgary on Friday. The fire was put out, and the kittens are being rehabilitated at a wildlife preservation facility.

I totally think I would have thought they’re just extra cute, not wildlife animals, and want to keep them anyway, anyhow!

Adorable.

There Appear To Be Some Loopholes In Tragic Story: 2 Children Dead in Hot Car

In Parker County, which is west of Forth Worth, Texas a 24 month-old child Juliet Ramirez and her 16 month-old sibling Cavanaugh Ramirez were found dead in their parents’ vehicle due to extreme heat.

The mother claims that she left the young children in a back room of the house to play in.

A couple hours later she went to check on her children and realized they were gone from the home. Then she says that she walked the property and eventually ended up at her vehicle. She says that the doors were locked, and that she needed to smash open the window, because her children were holding her cell phone and car keys.

I watched a video from the news in Texas and they show a pick-up truck as the vehicle. Click on the link below to watch the video:

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Of course, I am presently suspicious because it seems like it would be really hard for a 2 year-old to help or lift-up their 16 month-old sibling, but maybe I’m uneducated about how strong and able-bodied children are at those ages.

This story sounds eerily similar to Susan Smith’s in that the mother claims to have been the last to see her children before they died in horrific circumstances. There is a difference, since Smith claimed a black man hijacked her car and drown her children and this woman claims her young children did this all on their own, but it seems like these might both be sad situations where mothers become overwhelmed to the point that they are no longer capable of caring for their children and murder them rather than ask for help.

But, how often are women in society visible and respected and valued if they have given their children up for adoption or have been in any way perceived as not being capable of taking proper care of their children? It is definitely a scarlet letter to be viewed as a bad mom in society.

I’ve criticized parents, too. I don’t have children and I feel fairly pessimistic about the world. This is somewhat because I don’t want the responsibility, plus my own parents were way too young and ignorant to be parents but they made due. So I sometimes wonder, why the fuck do you (PARENTS AS A SINGULAR ENTITY) think you know enough to raise a contributing member of society? I’m just trying to make it through life, and I don’t know if I’ll ever be a good enough person to think I can positively contribute to this planet by adding another person to the mix. It’s hopeful to have children, but I have also judged parents as being arrogant to think they know enough. I guess what I’m assuming is that people feel they do know enough, when in reality many parents are just kind of going with the flow and aren’t claiming they are shining examples of humanity.

Anyways, I think women who are struggling to be mothers are punished 5 million times worse then men who are not present in their children’s lives. I’ve seen it so many times over.

Yes, there is Joni Mitchell who is respected and admitted to giving a daughter up for adoption pre-fame, but if this piece of info was known during Mitchell’s rise to fame, instead of when she was already established, it might have been very detrimental to her success.

I am not sure what has really happened in Texas, other than that 2 young, innocent children suffered more than I want to or am going to try to comprehend. I’ll stay in my bubble, but answers need to be found. This kind of tragedy needs to lead to education about how to best support children and mothers alike.

REAL HOUSEWIVES OF NEW YORK CITY: Tinsley Mortimer’s Mom Dale Is Harsh About Weight

(The above picture is of Tinsley, her mom Dale, and her sister Dabney Mercer)

So Tinsley took it a few steps deeper tonight by having her mom Dale (who is alive and very pulled-together) and her father (who was cremated in a wood box in the episode) share her screen time.

Whoa. Once Tinsley starts talking to her Mom about her childhood, she talks about coming home from camp and if she was skinny her Mom would give her a huge hug and act really happy to see her, but if she was bigger her Mom would limply hug her and show disappointment.

That sucks. While I was never really hot in high school because I ate too much food and didn’t exercise for most of high school, but I’m glad my Mom didn’t tell me to lose weight. Society and my own brain were pressure enough.

Dale, Tinsley’s Mom, looks incredible, since she must be in her 60s, so I respect her game in terms of maintaining her looks, but I wonder if she’ll maintain a facade at any and all costs.

I wanna know what Tinsley’s mom Dale said when Tinsley got arrested.

Now I Can See Why Austen Kroll From Southern Charm Seems Older Than 29

During the most recent episode of Southern Charm (airing on May 22nd), Austen revealed at the parquet courts place that his older sister, Kyle, died when Austen was 7 and Kyle was 10. Chelsea was asking something I would have wanted to know also, which is why Austen has a younger sister who is 9 years younger than him.

He explains that his parents had another child after his older sister tragically fell off the side of a cliff while on a family vacation in the U.S. Chelsea’s eyes welled-up immediately, it made me sad too, and it helped me to understand that I find Austen to be a hot 23 year-old, which is so rare because I’m 33 and usually find men who are older than myself to be hottest, because he’s probably been through more than most people in his particular genre of privileged whitehood in the first 29 years of life.