I love that Liev Schreiber and Naomi Watts supported their youngest son, Kai, 8 (left in pic, Sasha, 9, is on the right), dressing up as a female character of Harley Quinn from the Suicide Squad, because it shouldn’t matter if a boy dresses up as a girl or vice versa. I’d prefer to look at it as a human or a person dressing up as another person. I’m in support of they pronouns taking over and the undoing of gendered ideologies, and yet I’m not sure how to incorporate this into my daily life and actually be a part of the solution to sexism, homophobia, transphobia, etc.
Ideally, we’d be able to remove these overarching gender binaries that dictate so much of people’s identities and social interactions in our culture. The fact that Naomi Watts and Liev Schreiber are using their fame to hopefully help teach people that how a child or adult wants to dress, talk, alter their body, change names, identities, etc. does not reflect on who someone is as a person.
Wouldn’t it be great if how people treat each other and behave was more important than whether or not one conforms to a specific gender role? There is still a lot of work to be done before people, myself included-since I regularly catch myself thinking in gendered terms and re-confirming problematic ideas around gender, so I’m constantly trying to challenge myself to let go of these ideas-are able to look at someone as a person rather than as a man or a woman. I’m straight but I still have a lot of trust issues with men, and I love that I work at a place that is only staffed by women. Nevertheless, I would like to reach a point where I can take each person as an individual, rather than immediately feeling different towards someone because I perceive them to be male and therefore intimidating, not able to understand my perspective, and a potential predator.
I appreciate that Naomi Watts and Liev Schreiber are showing that there ain’t nothin’ wrong with letting kids choose how they want to dress up and have fun in the process.
Kai absolutely owned the Harley Quinn look! Go Kai!!