mental health

There Appear To Be Some Loopholes In Tragic Story: 2 Children Dead in Hot Car

In Parker County, which is west of Forth Worth, Texas a 24 month-old child Juliet Ramirez and her 16 month-old sibling Cavanaugh Ramirez were found dead in their parents’ vehicle due to extreme heat.

The mother claims that she left the young children in a back room of the house to play in.

A couple hours later she went to check on her children and realized they were gone from the home. Then she says that she walked the property and eventually ended up at her vehicle. She says that the doors were locked, and that she needed to smash open the window, because her children were holding her cell phone and car keys.

I watched a video from the news in Texas and they show a pick-up truck as the vehicle. Click on the link below to watch the video:

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Of course, I am presently suspicious because it seems like it would be really hard for a 2 year-old to help or lift-up their 16 month-old sibling, but maybe I’m uneducated about how strong and able-bodied children are at those ages.

This story sounds eerily similar to Susan Smith’s in that the mother claims to have been the last to see her children before they died in horrific circumstances. There is a difference, since Smith claimed a black man hijacked her car and drown her children and this woman claims her young children did this all on their own, but it seems like these might both be sad situations where mothers become overwhelmed to the point that they are no longer capable of caring for their children and murder them rather than ask for help.

But, how often are women in society visible and respected and valued if they have given their children up for adoption or have been in any way perceived as not being capable of taking proper care of their children? It is definitely a scarlet letter to be viewed as a bad mom in society.

I’ve criticized parents, too. I don’t have children and I feel fairly pessimistic about the world. This is somewhat because I don’t want the responsibility, plus my own parents were way too young and ignorant to be parents but they made due. So I sometimes wonder, why the fuck do you (PARENTS AS A SINGULAR ENTITY) think you know enough to raise a contributing member of society? I’m just trying to make it through life, and I don’t know if I’ll ever be a good enough person to think I can positively contribute to this planet by adding another person to the mix. It’s hopeful to have children, but I have also judged parents as being arrogant to think they know enough. I guess what I’m assuming is that people feel they do know enough, when in reality many parents are just kind of going with the flow and aren’t claiming they are shining examples of humanity.

Anyways, I think women who are struggling to be mothers are punished 5 million times worse then men who are not present in their children’s lives. I’ve seen it so many times over.

Yes, there is Joni Mitchell who is respected and admitted to giving a daughter up for adoption pre-fame, but if this piece of info was known during Mitchell’s rise to fame, instead of when she was already established, it might have been very detrimental to her success.

I am not sure what has really happened in Texas, other than that 2 young, innocent children suffered more than I want to or am going to try to comprehend. I’ll stay in my bubble, but answers need to be found. This kind of tragedy needs to lead to education about how to best support children and mothers alike.

Planned Parenthood: Kardashians Redeem Themselves

I’m happy the Kardashians have gone and filmed a segment at Planned Parenthood because it puts a very well-known face on women’s reproductive health rights, which are important to focus on at this point in time in the United States and Canada also.

Planned Parenthood is the first place I went to for contraception. I got birth control pills at my Mom’s encouragement during high school. I didn’t even end up having sex with the person I was dating while I was taking the pills, but I appreciated the judgment-free help I received at Planned Parenthood in Hamilton, Ontario.

Anyways, I’ve also had an abortion. I got pregnant because I was delusional about how dangerous my blackout-drinking habits were, and a guy I didn’t even remember meeting had sex with me and I ended up pregnant. I didn’t even consider for a second having the child. The guy who had impregnated me scared me, and I knew I wanted an abortion. I received exceptional medical care and was able to pay at a private clinic in my city of Vancouver for an abortion that cost around $600.

Clearly, access to money was helpful here, so my class had a definite impact on how quickly I could schedule an abortion. I have never, ever regretted having an abortion at 23 (I’m 33 now). I wish I didn’t drink out of control like a maniac, so I didn’t end up with an unwanted pregnancy.

I found the actual procedure much less traumatic than those anti-abortion picketers who hold signs up about how babies are being aborted with full arms and legs. I had an abortion at 5 weeks and the doctor doing the procedure showed me the peatree dish with what looked like a strong period, nothing more, and I breathed a sigh of relief. I don’t want to get pregnant again and have an abortion, but if you do end up with a pregnancy and don’t want to give birth being proactive can make the recuperation period easier, based on how I experienced things. Anyways, I’m so thankful I had this option, and other women deserve this option also. That is why the conservative side is scary and eerily similar to The Handmaid’s Tale reproductive metaphor.

Planned Parenthood exists throughout the United States, and at sites they offer different things such as abortions, abortion referrals, contraception, and of course, education about sexual health. It is an essential service in my opinion. It is dangerous to children’s well-being to be born to mother’s who do not want to carry the pregnancy to term. Unwanted children cannot be cared for in the same way that wanted children can. For this reason, and many others, abortion is essential in our society.

I respect the Kardashians for going to a Planned Parenthood (check out their site here: Planned Parenthood site) in California to film a segment and to stand in line with Planned Parenthood to continue to raise awareness of how much funding Planned Parenthood requires to help as many people as possible, but also laws that make abortion services available to people and affordable. Safety matters to.

Thank-you unbelievably visible Kardashians for doing your part to draw more people’s attention to Planned Parenthood. Anyone who thinks the Kardashians are all bad is pessimistic and ignoring FACTS. Especially since the Kardashians are so famous, because if I were them I’d be extra scared a vengeful anti-abortion person might shoot me to make a point.

Love you Kardashians forever!

Dolly Parton Takes Some Shame Away from Suicidal Thoughts

I read this article (click here) on People.com last night, and reading quotes a new book called Dolly on Dolly, Interviews and Encounters with Dolly Parton that has compiled lots of Dolly Parton interviews together. According to this book there was a time when she thought about killing herself with her pistol, because she was so unhappy made me feel undeniably better and less shameful about the fact that I’ve had two overnight stays in the hospital when I’ve been suicidal. Dolly apparently said that her dog saved her by running in and jolting her out of her depression and that he is her “spiritual messenger”.

I keep feeling bad because I didn’t actually kill myself and just talked about how I was thinking about killing myself.

That is the sick part about stigma in our society. It should be a positive thing that I received support and didn’t kill myself, but I still think there is a lot of judgment around people admitting they’re in a lot of pain and are thinking about hurting themselves.

I am thankful at my lowest points I was able to afford high quality medical support and I think my mental health problems improved.

Dolly Parton goes out on a limb by being so honest and frank about her own struggles with suicide, because we’re not supposed to admit openly that sometimes life sucks so much it can appear as if death would be a better solution. I hope it’s not. I hope that any individual who is having suicidal thoughts share them with someone who can help you, either at a hospital or with a friend/trusted person.

Dolly Parton proves that you can be incredibly successful and viewed as having it all in life and still be suicidal. Depression and suicide do not discriminate, but I still think that shame is the dominating force that shapes how we treat depression and suicide and that makes it less safe for people who are struggling with these issues.

Anyways, I don’t listen to Dolly Parton’s music on my iTunes but I love her persona and acting (Steel Magnolias, 9 to 5) and this candid revelation about being suicidal made me love her more. Dolly rules! Maybe I’ll make it to Dollywood one day.

On a side note, I saw this article up on People.com last night and it was already far down the page and not a big story even though I think it should have been. Today I went back to People.com to find it and I couldn’t find it was pushed so far down in the news chain of events. I had to type in Dolly Parton suicide People.com on Google to find the article. I may be wrong but I think how quickly this article disappeared from People.com is another example of stigma towards getting help and being open about mental health struggles.